5 is a big number!

Yeah ..its half a decade since I have been a mom ! Can I believe it ..NO !! My little baby is 5 already !! I am overwhelmed with emotions, cannot find words.

How did this year go ! Quite well. He has been a well behaved child for most part. He matured and started understanding things when we gave proper reasoning. He rarely throws tantrums now. He usually understands when we tell him no to something with a reason. He started showing more assertiveness about his likes and dislikes and his wants but without being unreasonalble. Which I really appreciate.

On the other side, he is still a very sensitive child. He cannot hurt anyone and gets over emotional and angry about small things. He becomes excessively possessive about his friend and doesnot want to share friend with anyone. Though the friend keeps on changing , it has been always a girl or the other in all these years and this makes the situation even more funny :-) He continues to be a shy baby and cannot gel with new people easily , shys away from saying hello and talk about his problems in school. He finds crying easier than talking when we are not around. We , especially his papa continues to worry endlessly over these behaviourial issues.

We moved him to a seperate bed , in our room itself 2-3 months ago. This was a part of preparing for the new baby. It has been going on fine and since last 2-3 months he has been sleeping well on his bed except 1-2 instances when he requested to sleep between us and I gave in.

The first day was more difficult for me than for him. I missed his cuddling and kicking and I kept checking for him every few minutes. I actually could not sleep that night. The next few days went fine mostly , except on some rare occasions when he rolled in to our bed without his knoweledge.

For past 1 month or so , even that did not happen. Now he sleeps well on his bed , just that we hold each other's hand till he falls asleep and if he happens to get up at night , he touches me to check that I am around.

Yesterday night though , I wanted him to snuggle with me. Somehow, the realization that he will be 5 , a big boy already , made me feel uncomfortable , jittery , excited and scared. I am not sure what's the correct word to describe that feeling.

So though I did not suggest him to move in to my bed , I initiated a talk which made him suggest that he wants to snuggle :P Selfish selfish me :P
And so we cuddled and slept. All the while thinking that these moments may not last for long. Soon he will be grow so old that this idea of cuddling with mumma will become wierd and funny to him. I just feel like time should halt here today. I just wish that I can continue to hold , hug and tickle him forever.

Cannot write anymore ..so some links :)

Aryan's first pic with dad

Pics from Hospital

First Birthday pics

Second Birthday !

Third Birthday !

Fourth Birthday!

Sensitive ???

Is that the word for him ..I am not sure but sometimes he amazes me with what he says.

One day after daycare , he was in a bad mood when I picked him up , so I asked what happened.

Aryan : "Anisha bad girl hai"
Me : "Kyo"
Aryan : "Usse mere saath khelna tha"
Me : "Toh ?"
Aryan : "Mujhe uske saath nahi khelna tha , mujhe Krishita ke saath khelna tha "
Me : "aap dono ke saath khelo"
Aryan : "NO"
Me : "Toh aap usko bolo ki I dont want to play with you today"
Aryan : "Nahi"
Me : "Kyo"
Aryan : "Agar main aaise bolunga toh woh cry karegi na"


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Aryan : "Papa aaj Joshi ne mujhe pinch kiya"
Papa : "Acha , aapne kya kiya"
Aryan : "Maine Cry kiya"
Papa : "Kyo woh itni choti bachi hai , aap usse pitai kha ke aate ho." (She is a year younger than him and small built)
Aryan : "Haan, Agar main usse pinch karta toh woh cry karti , isliye nahi maine pinch nahi kiya"

He gives us compliments !

Yes he does !

• The other day he told me , "Beautiful !" after I got ready for an outing.
• This weekend he pulled out a shirt after his papa came from bath and tells him to wear that.
• The other day he pulled out a T-shirt for him and when he wore it he told "Yeh Mujhe Pasand hai" (I like it !)
• One day I had a hair band on and he tells , "WOW , Nice"

How is his school going ?

Lets see ..

Every morning I have lot of trouble waking him up. Morning hours are way to stressful for both Anupam and me. Wake him up , push him to bathroom by hook or crook. Make him ready , rush to car. Feed him breakfast in the car and then drop him to the school , just in time and sometimes late by few minutes. Being late can be attributed to Aryan or traffic and that depends.

At the school when we drop him there are multiple kinds of behaviour and thats perfectly his choice. I don't remember dates , but witness some of his days :

Day K : We talk on the way :

Me : "Aryan why do you cry at school, school mein maza aata hai na"
Aryan : "Haan"
Me : "Then"
Aryan : "Mumma papa saath , car jana hai"


Day X : As the car stops at school he says to himself , "Ab cry karna hai" (Now I have to cry)

Huh ..is that a custom now ? Is what I think:-P

Day A(happens to be monday): On a friday night he tells me that "Aryan kal school cry nahi karega"
(Aryan will not cry at school from tomorrow)

Cool ..why the hell its a friday ..GRRR ..me think :P

Anyway , he doesnot cry on THE monday and tuesday and say a bye with a sad smile.

WOW ..me think


Damn the school closes for swine fear for a week.

Day Y(School opens after swine fear) : Again a bye !!

Yippe ..me thinks

Day Z(We reached late to school) : While I am talking and explaining why we are late , he bursts into tears :(

Day B(Yesterday) : On the way he says "Aryan cry karega" and he does.

Day C (Today) : On the way, in the car we speak ,

Me: "Aryan school mein maza aata hai na "
Aryan : "Haan"
Me : "Aryan aap cry nahi karoge na"
Aryan : "Aryan cry karega"
Me : "Kyo , cry karna acha lagta hai"
Aryan : "Haan" (spots his school's lane) "I-card lagao, school aa gaya"
Me : (putting the I-card) "Ok , then cry loudly"
Aryan : "Nooo , shout nahi karte" (spots school buiding) "Bag taango , school aa gaya"

And he goes off , crying but not shouting :-P


In the evenings , he has loads of stories to tell , from how they played on slide , what they ate , what they painted , how they excercised , what did his teacher wear , who came and who did not , which poem he learnt etc etc and he communicates all of that in parts and pieces just before bed :)

Now ..do you get the answer..please let me know if you did :-P

Me not allowed to be angry :(

These days Aryan can be a brat. Can do anything he wants. But I cannot be angry. Forget angry , I cannot even show my displeasure in casual way too. Because the moment I say , "Aryan why did you do so ?" or "Aryan see what you have done ?" or "Aryan you should not be doing this " or "Aryan say sorry" or I just keep quiet or I don't smile at him , there is a big hungama. He cries and makes whole lot of fuss saying "Mumma gussa ho gayi" and that goes on and on till I give up and pamper him and show him in all possible ways that "Mumma gussa nahi hai" GRRR....


On a seperate note : The role play went fine I guess. All I got to know was :

"Aryan horse bana tha" , "Mummy wala mask" , "maza aaya", "X duck bana tha" , "Maam camera photo"
and the mask was missing from the bag though tail came back intact in bag.

Naughty little Monkey

What would you do when a friend (Husband's college friend) visits you after 3 years to stay over for a night. And when he gets to meet your 2.5 years old first time. And when your son behaves the way he does.

Okay I see a curious question mark on your face :-)

Aryan gave a warm welcome to his Chachu (husband's close friend). Showed him each and every toy , so much so that the guy would have almost felt tortured. Then opened the only unopened carton after the shifting which has got some useless miscellenous stuff. And grabbed a book on Pregnancy Q & A and gifted the same to Chachu :-P

Thats not all !

After Chachu finished tea and got up , he gave a big smile and said "Chachu Bye!!". Now remember I told you that he came for night stay :-P

But even thats not all !

So Chachu tells Aryan that he is here to stay but Aryan did not give in and said "Chachu Bye!!" soon after dinner. This time Chachu says bye to test his reaction and got ready to go for a walk with Anupam. So Aryan goes to the lift to say bye to them , shows him the lift and says "Idhar, Bahar" (From here , Out). This time chachu finally comments "Mujhe bhej ke hi manega" (He will relax only after sending me) :-P


But even thats not all !


So after they came back from walk they told Aryan and Mumma to sleep. You know private talks between friends ..yeah about old girl friends ;-) ..hehheh. So anyways mumma tried hard to take Aryan away from chachu , but he did not give in. So Chachu pretended that even he is going to sleep.

Now the ultimate one !

Aryan tells chachu , "Chachu susu jao"


On a seperate note though , Aryan really enjoyed his time with Chachu and it was the first time he became so friendly with someone so soon. And that too when Chachu was not behaving like a kid and playing with him. He wanted to spend time chatting with us while Aryan wanted all his attention. And I should have clicked some pics :-(

Is this justice ?

Aryan is going through a phase when he just wants things to be done in his own way and he becomes VERY VERY aggressive when when we say NO or scold him for something. Its becoming increasingly difficult for us to handle him. This saturday was one of those bad days when he was too excited and which means he was misbehaving way too much and I was angry and irritated.

So during the day we had many sessions , when I told him that I am angry and I won't talk to him and he came and said sorry and then repeated the same old stuff. Once he got too angry to bang a toy on my head and got a slap from his papa.

But this post is not about his behaviour but what happened after that.

His nanu called up and he came running to talk to nanu. He spoke continously to him for 15 minutes(he never speaks more than 2-3 minutes usually) in a low tone and when I asked phone he did not give me but cut it. So nanu called again and he spoke again for 5 mins and said okay bye and cut the phone.

I knew he was telling about day's events but did not know what was my papa speaking from other side.

So later in the night I called him up (since we were not able to speak) and he told me that Aryan told him that we scolded him and hit him. And when he asked Aryan , "Swati hai , Anupam hai" , he told that , "Dono hai , baat nahi karni".

And after that we got good scolding for scolding and hitting him.

So the other side of story was not even heard :( You tell me , is this court not biased ?

Random Incidents

Long since I wrote a nice nice post for Aryan.It has been so many times that I thought that he said or did something so blog worthy but by the time I would get time to write I would forget all. So here are a few random things I can recall , before its too late.

1. I have a metrosexual man in my house , who is a little too enthusiastic about his looks. Every day he massages his hands and face with all the cream he can grab and the process takes a good 30-45 minutes. And he blames the kids in his day care to grab the bottle of cream. So this is like it goes :

Aryan : Mumma , Kaata (pointing at his wrist, with the bottle of cream in his hand)
Mumma : Kisne ?
Aryan : Aadi or Rishab or Paati or Aunty or mosquito(Basically whatever comes to his mouth first)
Mumma : Thik hai , cream laga lo
Aryan happily starts massaging where ever he wants with handful of cream

2. Its not that he is just worried about his own looks. I mean who wants a old wrinkled mom, to show off to friends. So he takes care of his lazy and careless mom too. He gives mom a facial and a manicure. Plus thai masaage on her legs too :-) Okay ..don't just start feeling J ladies.
But I am not lying. After he is done with himself , he starts massaging mumma's face and hands. And almost every night he comes with powder to massage my legs :-)


3. He is being crazy about Aeroplanes and Helicopters and he can hear them sound from anywhere and spot them from anywhere even in night sky. And he expects us also to do the same and when are not able to , he cries :-P Whats more funny is , he asks the aeroplanes and helicopters and birds to take him into their lap. He goes like "aeloplane godi" , "chiya godi" , "helitopter godi". During our diwali trip when he actually saw aeroplanes at the airport he was too excited and amazed. But when he sat inside one , he could not understand that he is actually inside the plane and wanted to go to all the other ones he could see. I tried too hard to explain that you are already in the plane but no use :P


4. From past 3 days he is telling be aphabets , as in ABCD. I do not know if he got from older kids in creche or from the lady in the creche. Although its not always in sequence but you can hear him saying 5-10 alphabets at random , which I think is good since I never taught him any. So the other day he was sating "B for ..." I was not able to get what he was trying to say after for. So I used all my vocabulary from ball to bat to boy etc. Finally I realized that it was butterfly :-)
And P for "peacock" , when I don't know if he knows what a peacock is :-)

5. Last but not the least. From past 2 days , our little dad makes both my and Anupam sleep on both his arms and pats our head and you should see the affection on his face :-)

My little sweetheart ..LOVE YOU !

Men will be Men !

I have always believed that men are born with love for cars and bikes and whatever you do , it remains and it cannot be changed.

Aryan endorsed my belief. While I was just struggling to teach him the difference between a car and a bus and a truck. He was actually trying to figure out the difference between the Hyundai Santro and the Maruti Swift and the Honda City!

Believe it or not ! I never told him any car by its make, for I always feared of loading him off with too much of information. Nor did I expect him to distinctly tell which is his dad's car if there are 3 cars of the same colour in a row.

But last week he saw a silver Santro and told me that its Nanu's car. Okay ..I thought, conincidence. And then this week he saw a red swift and told Mama's car.Okay ..he is good, I thought. I tried with other red cars , but its only when its a red swift.

And then 2 days back he saw a grey Honda City and told me that its Tauji's car :O

Mumma Kaun ?

He asks me to cover my self with the blanket as soon as we are in bed. When I do so , he asks me to keep my hands under the blanket and carefully tucks the blanket on sides.(I never did the same for him , atleast in his memory and I do not know from where he learnt this.)Then he lovingly keeps his hand on my cheek , the way I used to do some days back, till my hands were not buried under the blanket.

He asks me to go for bath , soon after he finishes his.

He doesnot allow me to walk bare foot for a second and runs to get my slippers each time he sees me barefoot.

He demands his Papa to remove shoes after office and wear slippers and also to change to nightwear.

The other day , I could not change to night wear due to some guest at home and decided to change after putting Aryan to sleep , but he did not allow me to lie down before I changed.

Now , I have a doubt , who is the Mom here?

Editted to Add :Yesterday it was one step further. He moved his little fingers from my forehead through my hair. (It was heavenly !) and then he patted my head and goes like "Aaaa Ummmm Aaaa , Mumma mumma soja". Funny but so cute , isn't it ?

25 months

I have not updated this page from a long time now and today I realized that I have so much to write that I do not know what to write :-P

Since today is 21st and Aryan turned 25 months old today, let me do a post today atleast.

So as you know my parents came for 10 days and Aryan was overwhelmed with their love and all the attention that he got. He used to be super excited all the time, dancing in happiness. He started repeating all the talks happening around. He discovered silly games, like standing on my papa’s hand and him saying “Uuii Uuuii” in pain and pulling his hand back and running in the balcony to see who will touch the wall on the opposite side first.

Then on 30th July , when they had to go back I did not know how will Aryan react. We went to drop them to railway station. We did counseling to Aryan 2 days in advance. Thankfully he did not cry , though he was sad.

Next morning my in laws came and Aryan wanted them to play the same silly games with him that he played with Nana Nani. For a day or two he missed nana nani badly inspite of having a great time with dadu dadi. And then he discovered a different set of silly games to play with the different set of grandparents.

In all we had a over excited, bubbly, naughty and happy baby for about a month, who enjoyed all the attention and love showered upon him 24 by 7.

My in laws went back on 13th Aug . Aryan as expected is missing all the fun badly. But at the same time he has been a good baby and managing well.

There were a few incidents , who may not be so significant to anyone from a third person’s perspective , but to me they give me some insight about my son’s personality.

So I would like to list them here :

On of the days, my MIL fell down while she was coming back after giving Aryan a bath. And Aryan who saw her falling down and was alone in the room got too scared and started crying. As she got up and hugged Aryan, Aryan patted her back and kissed her back , several times during the day and next few days. She told me that Aryan was scared when she wanted to take him to bath the next day, thinking that dadi might fall again. It was then that I discovered how caring and sensitive my little boy is. I mean I always thought that he is a sensitive child but the way he behaved to his dadi’s injury was beyond my expectation at his age.

I always wondered how Aryan will react to a sibling or a kid in house. I got chance when Anupam’s cousin came to stay over for a weekend with her 4 years old daughter. The two kids behaved just as expected. Hugging and cuddling each other one moment and fighting over a toy the next moment. Looking for each other if one is missing and fighting over the laps of their mothers. Aryan enjoyed her company for 2 days and literally missed her for days after she was gone.

On one of those two days when the two kids were playing with same colored balloons , Aryan’s balloon went out of his reach and so he grabbed the little girl’s balloon. As obvious , she started crying. It was then , I got Aryan’s balloon back to him. On getting his own balloon back, Aryan went and gave the little girl hers and kissed and hugged her. So I don’t know what should I conclude f rom the incident , which shows me two sides of same coin.

Enough for the post :-)

Army Rule

Chappo and Sho - Mumma and papa are not allowed to remain bare foot even for a second. As soon as we take off our sho(shoes) we are ordered to wear chappo (Chappals /Slippers). And wear it PROPERLY. We cannot sit , with our feet relaxing over the slippers or half the foot out of the place.

A rule is a rule - Every game has its rules. And rules should be followed. And I need not tell , who makes the rules. If Aryan is learning to jump , Mumma and Papa need to be seated on the sides of the bed, with slippers on. They cannot rest on their hands or lie down. Sit Straight. A rule is a rule. If Aryan decides that Mumma has to sit on the chair and papa on the bed while we play Throw-Catch , it has to be the same.

Finish your work in time - If the washing machine beeps , the clothes should be hanged THEN.THEN MEANS THEN.

Dress Properly - If the suit has Dupatta , wear it when you are going out. Don't carry it in hand , thinking of wearing it in the car.

Keep the House Clean - Everything has its place , keep them there.

Respond to Alarms - A reminder , a door bell or an alarm, repond quick and if its your phone , you should reply and not your spouse.

NO Means NO - I want , what I want and when I say NO , it means NO. Don't argue.

(I wonder if he was in Army in previous birth.On second thoughts he could have been my previous birth's MIL , and in that case I am luckier in this birth.)

What a brat!

Aryan is quite a rebel these days :
- Ask him to bath on any day from Monday to Friday and he throws a BIG tantrum.
- Ask him to finish his bath(he wants to bath for hours) on Saturday and Sunday and he throws a BIG tantrum
- Ask him to open his mouth for brushing on any day and he seals it tighter.
- Ask him to sleep and switch off the lights and he cries like hell.
- Ask him to not to do anything and he bites or hits.
- Ask him to wear a diaper and he runs away giggling.
- Ask him to sit on high chair for food and he wants to jump after 2 bites.
- Ask him not to climb stairs and he will.
Cannot wait for the Terrible TWO!!!!

Showing Off..

Like most kids Aryan loves to be noticed and appreciated when he is doing something new. These recent incidents are part of the same :

These days when my Papa or my mother in law calls and they wish to listen Aryan's voice , Aryan makes sure that he will not talk. Instead , he makes some happy sounds in low tone and rush around the house , and sit on from one toy to another or starts playing with kitchen utensils. But when you, take the phone away to talk , he will start crying. I have been wondering , what is that all about. By observing him closely for sometime , I figuured out that he does /plays the newest thing he has learnt. So he basically shows it off to them ..ON PHONE :-P


Yesterday I went to office , though it was a holiday. So Anupam and Aryan had a blast at home. When I was back, Anupam was telling me about how well Aryan could play with his new blocks and how quickly he was learning. While we were talk , Aryan was busy else where doing something. Soon he came running and started playing with the new blocks and after few seconds he looked at me for appreciation. I clapped and said "Very Good" and you should see the twinkle in his eyes and the sense of achievement :-)

Anupam's conclusion was , you can make this guy do anything with little encouragement. I hope this continues :-)